Wednesday, August 22, 2012

The Phone Call that Changed our Lives Forever

On Wednesday August 15, 2012, I went to work like any other day. I was on Neurology hospital service and it was a busy day, as I had many consults to complete. I was in the office dictating on the hospital phone a patient History & Physical when I looked down and saw my cell phone ringing. I hit pause on the dictation service and answered my cell phone and our amazing caseworker Jennifer was on the line. After telling her I was at work, I asked her if I needed to "suspend" my dictation job and she said that would be a good idea. I came back on the line and she said, "Well Joanna, I have some great news, you and Colby have been MATCHED!"

I sat there in shock and disbelief for a few seconds and asked over and over, "so what does that mean?" or "so what do we do?" I had talked to Jennifer so many times before on the phone for various reasons, so surprise is an understatement. She then responded, "Well, I'm about to freak you out a little bit. Your birth mother went to the doctor today and they've decided to induce her, so she's on her way to the hospital right now. So depending on when she delivers, you'll need to be in Florida sometime in the next 2 days."

Ummm....recap. We basically were just told, you are going to be parents today, your son will be born today! The most beautiful words I had ever heard, and ones that we had been waiting to hear for a long time.

The next moments involved calling Colby (who had the day off) and was on hole 13 on the golf course and I dropped the bomb on him and he just kept asking me the same thing, "what do we do?" At this point, I told him to finish his round of golf, as it might be the last one for awhile! :) I then came out of the office and announced to the few people that were at the nurses station of the unit that I was on (as all knew we were adopting) and said "It's a Boy!" After a few hugs, tears, and congratulations....panic set in! Don't get me wrong...were we shocked? Yes! Physically, we had lots of things to do, but emotionally our hearts had been prepared and yearned to be parents long before this day.

I went and talked to my fabulous practice managers who essentially put all the paperwork into effect for me to leave on maternity leave, sent my schedulers notification to cancel all of my appointments, and worked with my amazing team of NPs to re-work the schedule so there was coverage in the hospital. I must tell you that work was what I was most nervous about in the adoption process as "planning" really isn't a possibility and I hated to leave work in a bind, but let me just tell you that God's timing was perfect and He timed it right before the new schedules would be issued and appointments made and "damage control" was at the very minimum...hallelujah!

After this, I then had to work the rest of the day! Nuts. I tell you. Nuts! I kept re-reading all of my documentation over and over, making sure prescriptions were right, could barely answer questions that my doc had asked me and basically couldn't get my mind focused on ANYTHING else! I'm going to be a mom was pretty much the only thing reiterating in my head. Glorious!

Colby came up to my hospital so that we could call our birthmother for the first time, as she was getting set up in her hospital room for induction. Nerves, oh my goodness. We dialed and the sweetest voice answered. We got to talk to her briefly, make sure she still wanted "us" for the job, laughed, cried, and sent our well wishes for a safe and smooth delivery. And then...the rest was out of our control. Colby and I made a Buy Buy Baby run for formula, diapers, and a few essentials and notified close family and friends of our excitement. At this point we wanted to tell the world, but needed to wait until paperwork was officially signed.

On Thursday morning, August 16th, we received a phone call that our sweet baby boy had been born at 5:42 that morning and was healthy and beautiful! This meant that we needed to be in Florida by Saturday morning so this day involved flight arrangements, hotel, rental car, and lots of logistics with Colby's work and trying to get him off of work as well.

One of my besties Sommer came over and literally held my hand walking me through things I needed to do. She drove me halfway to my parents to drop off my furry dog children, took me to Babies R us for essentials, and helped keep my scatter brain together. Child care, college fund, nursery, etc. swarmed through my head! And she reminded me all those things could wait...ha! Members of our small group brought us dinner and lunch and showed up at our door with bottles and a few outfits, skyped us to show us how to set up the pack and play, and blessed us immensely with their prayers.

We weren't allowed to see pictures of him until our birthmother would sign paperwork at 48 hours, so my mind dreamed of his sweet face and my heart cried out to God to protect him while we weren't there with him and for peace with the waiting process of paperwork.

Colby went to work on Friday and when he got home, we finished our final packing and then headed to the airport to go get our baby boy...the best feeling in the whole world!

 These were our "baby announcement" pictures that our neighbor took when we got home from work and we texted to family and friends to tell them about our match. I'm clearly in work attire and Colby in golf attire.
We'll call this giddiness at its finest. 
At Buy Buy baby, I asked Colby to act like he was overwhelmed by the baby stuff. His response was that he does not in fact need to act! :)
Buying our first outfits!
Colby figuring out the pack and play.
This suitcase sure does look different than any one we'd ever packed! 
Entering Dallas Love!
All ready to go! 
Wouldn't want to go through parenthood with anyone else!
Whew! We were pretty tuckered after a whirlwind of a few days and finally made it on the plane! 
No rest for the weary...Dr. B still had to study while on the plane
Celebratory milkshake on our layover 
Our last meal with just the two of us!
(To be continued!) Lots of details needless to say, but I want to remember this day and God's provision for us always! The Sunday before our Match day, there was a huge storm that came through and knocked out powerlines, fences, a mess. Hard to believe we went from having no power at our house, having to stay with friends, and stressed by the mess that our neighborhood and house was, feeling sad from the ups and downs of the adoption journey and knowing that we hadn't matched...to pure Joy and the greatest surprise ever! You might notice that my last post was on the day we were leaving to go get him and God had totally used that song to speak to us that He HAD come and He is our Mighty Deliverer!

Friday, August 17, 2012

You'll Come

I have decided I have resolved
To wait upon you Lord
My rock and redeemer shield, and reward
I'll wait upon you Lord

As surely as the sun will rise
You'll come to us
As certain as the dawn appears

You'll come let your glory fall
As you respond to us
Spirit Rain, flood into our thirsty hearts again
You'll come.

We are not shaken we are not moved
We wait upon you Lord
Mighty deliverer triumph and truth
We wait upon you Lord

As surely as the sun will rise you'll come to us
Certain as your word endures.

Chains be broken
Lives be healed
Eyes be opened
Christ is revealed

Friday, July 27, 2012

As we're waiting

Romans 8:23-25

"And not only that, but we ourselves who have the Spirit as the firstfruits —we also groan within ourselves, eagerly waiting for adoption, the redemption of our bodies.  Now in this hope we were saved, yet hope that is seen is not hope, because who hopes for what he sees?  But if we hope for what we do not see, we eagerly wait for it with patience."

It doesn't take much to bring me to tears these days. I'm truly an expecting mama, even without changes happening with my body, there are so many on the inside. It's very hard to not be discouraged when it feels like nothing is happening on a day to day basis and you just continue to wait without any sort of end in site. Even in these moments God is faithful and gives you a scripture from His word to let you know that He's written it just for you and intended you read it at that specific moment. Thank you Lord for the ways you are blessing us as we're waiting.

Wednesday, July 4, 2012

Celebrating Dr. B!

At the end of May, we had a huge milestone over at our house. We changed from Mr. and Mrs. to Dr. and Mrs.! Words could not express the excitement and just how proud I am of Colby. He has worked his booty off, really since High School Valedictorian days to prepare for this day. I look back to our long hours studying together in the library at Baylor getting ready for our Cell Physiology tests and am amazed just how far the journey has come. Medical school had its ups and downs. Downs being us only seeing each other for approximately 20 minutes as I dropped off dinner at the library to him on my way in to the hospital working night shift. Or the 3-4 day stretches of him on call at the hospital (for free!) and our only time was watching the other sleep on opposite shifts. And the ups being weeks off after board exams were over, quick getaway trips, and oh our amazing friends and family that we have that have loved us and supported us throughout the journey.

God has taken care of us amazingly and shown us a lot about ourselves and his plan for us. Colby still has many days of overnight shifts and on-call and learning to do over the next 4 years of residency and still more board exams. But somehow it seems that he is really just getting started with career and God will continue to equip him to be able to serve how He sees fit. One of my Baylor friends Casey did a painting for us about half way through medical school and the inspiration I gave her to use was Psalm 1:3. "He shall be like a tree firmly planted by the streams of water, which yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither; And in whatever he does shall prosper." This was a verse that God spoke loudly to me about in the midst of our busy medical school and grad school studying because we felt stagnant at times with where our time was dispersed. We felt burdened because we didn't have as much time to be in the word as we would have liked, and weren't able to commit to as many service projects as we would have liked, or financially couldn't do this or that, or time with family/friends, etc. And so you almost want to throw in the towel and take the poor pitiful me approach and be complacent with where you are. But God showed us that we indeed were yielding fruit as we carried Him with us in the patients that we saw and that we needed to continue to be planted firmly in Him so that we would not grow weary or "wither" and that He still had a great work to be done in us. I write about this because I want to remember these times 10 years down the road when we will likely be "busy" with something else. And instead of taking the approach of, "WHEN we get to this point in our lives, we will do _______. We are still called to bear fruit in EVERY season and with God's mighty hand, our small efforts and willingness to serve will prosper.

We had a great celebration with our family and friends and can't thank everyone enough for your prayers and support! So proud of all your hard work love, it's an honor to walk this journey by your side. I'm praising God for His provision that brought us to this special day and can't wait to see what the future holds.
Here goes picture overload! We'll start with the Hooding ceremony which was on Friday afternoon.

We were so blessed for Dr. Ingram to fly in for this occasion. He was been a great mentor to Colby and they have been great family friends. He is an amazing Dr. that does the Lord's work and the reason for Colby to pursue ophthalmology.
 
 Proud wife!
 Proud parents
 With our niece Callyn
 The whole Crew
 With my mamacita
 She was a hoot! So excited to be in all the pictures.
 Couldn't have made it without these ladies and their encouragement as our hubbies were busy bees.
 All the husbands. So blessed for this great group of guys for Colby.
After the hooding was our eyeball themed graduation party for Dr. B! He was very surprised and we were blessed for the many friends and family that traveled and celebrated with us. 
Surprise!
 
  This is the picture I used on the invitation and the cake. It was a picture of Colby when he was probably 6 or 7 years old and dressed up as a doctor for Halloween. He's come a LONG way! :)
The doctor will SEE you now...
Next up is graduation which was on Saturday afternoon. This was a bigger ceremony than the hooding because it involved the whole school. 
 With their diplomas!
 After graduation, we went over to the Townsends for one last cookout!
 My girls...and a little after this the tears commenced... :(
 Found these shirts online a couple of years ago, and knew they needed to make an appearance during graduation weekend. They got some good use and everyone would be blessed to be taken care of by these guys.
The Crew one last time...Love y'all!
And that my friends...was medical school graduation weekend...Whew!

Sunday, April 29, 2012

So what's next?

So...what have we been up to? First, we went to our orientation in January where we got LOTS of information about what to expect throughout the adoption process, heard stories from both birth mothers and adoptive parents, and met lots of amazing families.
 In February we were up to our ears in paperwork, making copies of every record of every detail in our life, and finally got our packet all together to turn in. 
 This is Colby turning in our paperwork! He appeases me and takes a picture so I can document! :)

In March, our caseworker contacted us about scheduling our home study...and then she came the next day!!! So the middle of March, we got the most beautiful piece of paper in the mail that I had ever seen...our approval certificate! From March to April, we put together our profile book with pictures and our story. 
In between there, we had a couple of garage sales with so many of our amazing family and friends donating and helping out. This was very exhausting, but God really blessed our efforts and helped alleviate some of the cost burden of this process.
 That's a LOT of clothes!
 Ashlee is a great model...AND organizer!
 WOW!
 Grady displaying some of the items!
 Breaking for lunch!

Many have asked our time frame and the answer is...we have no idea! And that's probably the most exciting part. God has proven to us time and time again that His timing is perfect for us, so we know that the day our phone rings will be an amazingly orchestrated day! These are the many faces that are displayed along the hallways of Gladney. They are so beautiful, can't wait to see what he or she will look like.
Oh...did I also mention that Colby finished medical school last week? Whoop whoop! Very surreal. He's now enjoying time off until June when he'll start work! So stinkin' proud of him, and glad that we're headed toward the next phase of the journey. Wouldn't be possible without all of the amazing support and encouragement we've gotten along the way.